Ester Perel, MA, LMFT
Leading Edge Seminars, Inc
Koffler House/Multi-Faith Centre, University of Toronto, 569 Spadina Avenue, Toronto
Couples therapy has traditionally focused on two partners occupying a shared space with a neutral third party, striving toward greater honesty and transparency. Couples are engaged as a unit, and therapists are discouraged from seeing partners separately lest power balances or allegiances be disturbed. What is lost in this approach to couples therapy?
To effectively engage such issues as intimacy, sexuality, and infidelity, therapists must create separate spaces where each partner can safely explore his/her feelings and experiences along with larger relationship dynamics. Couples therapy can best succeed in combinations of one and two.
In this workshop, we will explore: how to navigate secrets in couples work; clinical dilemmas and interventions around sex, love, and power; infidelity and how to move beyond it; and balancing the hidden dimension of sexual desire with the need for transparency and security.
Combining formal teaching, clinical case examples, and video vignettes, Esther Perel will probe the bonds and conflicts between love and desire through a multi-cultural lens. The workshop draws on attachment and psychoanalytic theory, family systems, and body-oriented approaches.
You will learn —
How to create a safe and non-judgemental therapeutic environment to work with secrets, privacy, transparency, and truth-telling
A more nuanced therapeutic approach for working with extra-marital relations — past and present, fantasized or real, disclosed or withheld
Strategies to help couples unlock sexual blocks and take emotional risks
Ways for couples to rebuild trust and intimacy and to promote erotic recovery following an affair
About the Presenter:
Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, is a master trainer, therapist, and workshop leader, and an acknowledged international authority on couples therapy, culture, and sexuality. Her bestseller, Mating in Captivity, has been translated into 24 languages. Esther serves on the faculty of the Family Studies Unit, Department of Psychiatry, New York University Medical Center, the International Trauma Studies Program, and the Ackerman Institute for the Family. Fluent in nine languages, she brings a multi-cultural perspective to her practice, teaching, and writing. For more information, please visit www.estherperel.com.