The Disappearing Male by Joan Lachkar, PhD, provides psychoanalytic/psychodynamic descriptions of eight different kinds of men who “disappear” from relationships seemingly without warning or explanation. This book can help to assist the women affected in recognizing the danger signs to prevent them from faltering in their relationship efforts. This book is significant to the awareness and self-esteem of women in relationships, the dating world, and to the therapists that treat them.
Dr. Lachkar does it again! She addresses an issue hardly mentioned in the analytic literature, the plight of the disappearing male and the women who love and are traumatized by them. This book is unique and is suitable for all mental health professionals, including the most seasoned. The concept of ‘disappearing’ tackles the difficult terrain of dissociation where one can be physically present but not emotionally there, creating confusing, frustrating, and upsetting moments of interaction. This book contains the road maps to engage those who are disengaged.
Chapter 1 Overview of The Disappearing Male
Chapter 2 Theoretical Framework
Chapter 3 The Disappearing Narcissist
Chapter 4 The Disappearing Borderline
Chapter 5 The Disappearing Schizoid
Chapter 6 The Disappearing Obsessive Compulsive
Chapter 7 The Disappearing Passive Aggressive
Chapter 8 The Disappearing Depressive
Chapter 9 The Disappearing Cross-Cultural Man
Chapter 10 The Disappearing Woman
Chapter 11 Treatment Techniques, Approaches
Epilogue: Closing Thoughts
About the Author
Joan Lachkar, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California. She is an affiliate member of the New Center for Psychoanalysis, and the author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple: Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment; The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women; The V-Spot; How to Talk to a Narcissist; and How to Talk to a Borderline. Dr. Lachkar is also a psychohistorian, and has published numerous articles on marital and political conflict in the Journal of Psychohistory, Frontpage, and Family Security Matters. Publications include The Psychopathology of Terrorism, a paper for the Rand Corporation.