Uncontrolled anger can be devastating, yet many people with serious anger issues don’t know how to change their behavior. In Overcoming Destructive Anger, psychologist Bernard Golden, an anger management specialist, offers concrete tools for turning destructive anger into healthy anger.
Dr. Golden draws on both compassion-focused therapy—a model for change that encompasses and expands on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and practices in compassion and self-compassion—and theories of emotional intelligence. He teaches readers to recognize, sit with, and move beyond the triggers that cause destructive anger. Anger logs and other exercises, together with stories of people who were challenged by anger and able to overcome their outbursts, allow readers to explore the source of their anger and recognize its destructive potential. Emphasizing anger’s link to habits of thinking, feeling, and physical reactions, Dr. Golden offers multiple strategies for coping with current hurts as well as past wounds. And he directs readers to helpful websites, books, and films.
Dr. Golden explains why destructive anger happens and how it can contribute to divorce, estranged families, job loss, addictions, and even imprisonment. Emphasizing the importance of making calm, constructive choices and cultivating self-empathy, this guide will free people with destructive anger—and those around them—to live more fulfilling lives.
" Overcoming Destructive Anger successfully weaves together mindfulness strategies to help readers recognize and control triggers while changing the way they experience anger. An effective resource for anyone looking for information and strategies that are easy to understand and practice."
— Kathleen Trainor, PsyD, Harvard Medical School
"A lifeline for those who struggle with the devastating consequences of destructive anger, this wonderful book will help people cultivate a healthy relationship with anger by cultivating a healthy relationship with themselves. It is filled with wise and compassionate insight into how to understand and work with feelings of anger."
— Kristin Neff, PhD, University of Texas at Austin, author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
"In this step-by-step guide, Dr. Golden offers an innovative combination of skills to transform the harsh inner environment that leads a person to unhealthy anger. This book is essential reading for anyone who wants to drop the sword and make friends with themselves and others."
— Christopher K. Germer, PhD, Harvard Medical School, author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions
"Dr. Golden explains how anger develops and is sustained, and why self-hatred lies at the core of many chronic anger problems. Combining clear descriptions with valuable exercises, Overcoming Destructive Anger focuses on helping readers develop self-compassion and use mindfulness meditation in overcoming their anger issues."
— Ronald T. Potter-Efron, PhD, author of Rage: A Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Explosive Anger
About the Author:
Bernard Golden, PhD, the founder of Anger Management Education, has been a practicing psychologist for almost forty years. He is the author of Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their Anger and Unlock Your Creative Genius.