Children have four basic needs for healthy emotional and neurological development—to feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure. The underlying way to meet this need is for parents to “show up,” and the bestselling authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline show us—with scripts, strategies, and tips—to show up in both big and small ways over the course of childhood.
Good news for parents everywhere: all you’ve got to do is show up, with extra points for imperfection!
The research is very clear: for a child’s brain to become wired in ways that are emotionally protective and happiness-inducing, they need one person to predictably (not perfectly) show up in a way that makes them feel consistently safe, seen, soothed and secure. As bestselling author Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson reveal, however, none of the “Four S’s” of showing up involves sideline cheering or a helicoptering presence. Instead, it is a guiding parenting principle that is simple to implement in all kinds of situations. With stories, scripts, strategies, illustrations, and tips, they demonstrate what showing up looks and sounds like whether our kids are struggling or when they are enjoying success; when we are consoling, disciplining, or arguing with them; and even when we are apologizing for not “showing up” for them. A reassuring book book with an inspiring message, The Power of Showing Up shows that mistakes and missteps are never irreparable and its never too late to repair broken attachment and trust. The key is showing up.
About the Authors:
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, the founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and executive director of the Mindsight institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, Dr. Siegel is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestsellers Aware and Brainstorm and the bestsellers Mindsight, Parenting from the Inside Out (with Mary Hartzell), and with Tina Payne Bryson, The Whole-Brain Child, No Drama Discipline and The Yes Brain. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, with welcome visits from their adult son and daughter.
Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., is a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist, the director of parenting for the Mindsight Institute, and the child development specialist at Saint Mark’s School in Altadena, California. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, and she lives near Los Angeles with her husband and three children.