Stop Running from Love introduces a five-step plan to help people struggling with a fear of intimacy assess their relationship history and develop an action plan for becoming more present, open and giving in relationships.
In a relationship mismatch often observed by couples' therapists, one partner exhibits a fear of or inability to create intimacy or closeness with the other. He or she actively creates emotional, communicative or even physical distance from his or her partner. Therapists often refer to this individual as a "distancer." Distancers are often afraid of being engulfed or controlled by their partners. They fear rejection, vulnerability and dependence. Stop Running from Love presents a clear, step-by-step approach distancers can use to move beyond their fear of intimacy and start building strong and lasting relationships
Exercises and self-evaluations in the book help you become aware of how you operate in romantic relationships. You'll review and reassess your relationship patterns, deciding what changes you want to make. You'll then commit to actions that can make it happen. Since distancers often externalize their problems in relationships, transferring blame for relational problems onto their partners, the book works to help them give up the illusion that they can change others. Instead, it shows them how to engage with their partners to create a positive new relationship dynamic.
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About the Author:
Dusty Miller, EdD, is a clinical psychologist, writer, trainer and internationally-recognized expert in the areas of trauma, addiction and self-sabotage--including relationship self-sabotage such as distancing. The director of the ATRIUM Institute in Northampton, Virginia, Miller offers training, consultation and workshops for professionals and paraprofessionals who work with traumatic stress, substance abuse, relational challenges and more. She is author of Women Who Hurt Themselves, Addictions and Trauma Recovery and Your Surviving Spirit.