Forgiveness is about more than just letting go. It’s about healing wounds and wiping away scars. It’s about feeling better—physically and emotionally. It’s about living your life with purpose and truly moving forward.
In Unconditional Forgiveness, Mary Hayes Grieco offers the Eight Steps to Freedom, a simple, effective eight-step program that teaches readers how to completely forgive in order to achieve both emotional and physical well-being. This step-by-step method incorporates emotional, energetic, and spiritual components that are accessible to everyone and offer lasting success. The Eight Steps to Freedom are:
Step One: Use Your Will
Declare your intention through the power of will to begin the process of forgiveness.
Step Two: Express Your Emotional Pain
You are given complete freedom to express your honest emotions without judgment or fear.
Step Three: Release Expectations from Your Mind
Identify and let go of the expectations you had surrounding the person or situation that you are forgiving.
Step Four: Restore Your Boundaries
Firmly separate yourself from the harmful actions and attitudes of the other person or situation.
Step Five: Open Up to Getting Your Needs Met in a Different Way
Emotions have been released, expectations have been let go, and you no longer demand anything from the person or situation that you are forgiving.
Step 6: Receive Healing Energy from Spirit
Reach to a higher level, bringing unconditional love and light into your being.
Step Seven: Send Unconditional Love to the Other Person or Situation and Release
Unconditional love and light is freely given to the person or situation you are forgiving.
Step Eight: See the Good in the Person or Situation
Now that you are free from the past pain and grievance, recognize the good that can be taken from the person or situation.
Grieco walks the reader through each step and addresses the entire spectrum of painful issues, from the everyday mundane to the most difficult, as well as providing a way to forgive one’s self, when necessary. The how to appendix provides a perennial, off-the-shelf reference to swiftly guide readers through the process whenever the need arises. With Grieco’s in-depth yet simple program, your healing can be as swift as it is lasting.
"For forgiveness workshop instructor Grieco, forgiveness is an activity that goes beyond letting go of resentments. It is an act of universal harmony. Guided by the belief that 'there is nothing that is unforgivable,' the author spends much of this book outlining her Eight Steps to Freedom. Part therapy and part ritual, the Eight Steps begin with expressing feelings and a desire to change, and proceed through restoring boundaries, opening up to the universe, sending unconditional love to the offending party, and finding the greater good. It is a unique approach that incorporates Western therapeutic practices with Eastern concepts such as chakras. Along with these steps, Grieco shares personal stories of her own stresses and sufferings and relates many success stories of her clients’ forgiveness breakthroughs. Her writing is serious when it should be, but also humorous and accessible. While the universal spirituality–meets–therapy session approach to forgiveness makes this somewhat of a niche book, it may speak to seekers who are struggling with unresolved personal or spiritual grievances." (Dec.)
-- Publishers Weekly
About the Author:
Mary Hayes Grieco has taught her powerful method of forgiveness in a wide variety of venues since 1990. With her background in psychology, and her ten years of intensive personal training with Dr. Edith Stauffer PhD, Mary has refined her method of forgiveness, as well as the way it is taught in workshops, making this life-changing process accessible to everyone. This consistently effective program has transformed thousands of lives.
Mary has offered workshops in the United States, Ireland, and Germany, where she demonstrates the process of forgiveness to a network of 150 therapists who work with veterans returning from Iraq and Afghanistan. She spoke at the Nobel Peace Prize Forum in 2005 and is currently scheduled to present her forgiveness work in Kuwait in March, 2012.
Mary has served on staff at the Hazelden Treatment Center for over sixteen years, and at The University of St. Thomas' Management Center. She is the director and lead trainer of The Midwest Institute for Forgiveness Training, providing programs for the general public, for mental health professionals, for future trainers of this work, and serious students of self mastery.