Real love starts with you . In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love.
Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we've selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven't done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We've all heard You can't love anyone unless you love yourself," but amid life's distractions andthe myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that?
In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you'll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself , you'll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection.
By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner-you'll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires. "
About the Author:
Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is an assistant clinical professor in the department of psychology and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to her clinical work with couples and individuals, Solomon teaches graduate and undergraduate students. She teaches Northwestern's internationally renowned course Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101," which combines traditional and experiential learning to teach students about key relational issues likemate selection, intimacy, conflict, acceptance, and forgiveness. Solomon's work has been widely cited, and her articles on love and marriage have appeared in The Handbook of Clinical Psychology , Family Process , and other top publications in psychology. Her work also appears in Yahoo! Health and The Huffington Post , and she is a frequent interviewee and contributor for WBEZ, Oprah Winfrey Network, WGN Morning News , The Atlantic , CBS Early Show , and NPR. Solomon lives in Highland Park, IL, with her husband, Todd, and their two children, Brian and Courtney. "