This book is for anyone facing a potentially high conflict divorce, whether or not your spouse meets the criteria for a Borderline or Narcissistic Personality.
Its explanations of WHAT TO EXPECT and suggestions for WHAT TO DO can be used by anyone, including your attorney, your therapist, your family and others involved in your case.
Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders are mental health diagnoses, describing rigid patterns of long-term interpersonal problems and personal distress. When those with these disorders go through a divorce, it can trigger intense emotions, misperceptions and the unconscious defense mechanism called "Splitting."
The resulting behavioral problems and allegations often surprise everyone involved -- family, friends, and even legal professionals. Most commonly, the spouse (live-in partner, etc.) becomes a Target of intense emotional attacks which may include physical abuse, verbal abuse, distortion campaigns and legal abuse (false allegations, frivolous litigation, and sometimes unwarranted criminal charges).
This book explains common problems when those with these personalities enter the legal process of divorce. The goal is to help you avoid predictable pitfalls, reach a reasonable settlement when possible, and protect yourself and your children when necessary.