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Monday, April 30th 2018

Emotion, Love, Power and Forgiveness in Couples Therapy

Facilitator: Leslie Greenberg, Ph.D.
presented by SickKids Centre for Community Mental Health Learning Institute

This Training is Suitable for: All mental health professionals and students, psychotherapists, counsellors, psychologists, and social workers.

Description: This workshop will present ways of dealing with affect regulation in relation to both attachment and dominance issues in relationships. Discussion and viewing tapes that depict working with emotions related to power and identity, as well as intimacy and attachment (to transform vicious cycles into virtuous ones) will be presented. The emotions of anxiety and sadness related to threats to attachment security will be addressed. In addition, the spectrum of emotions associated with intimacy, including fear, shame, and anger as well as warmth, love, caring, joy, and excitement are also addressed. Focus will be given to promoting other-soothing and self-soothing by helping partners regulate each other's and their own affects, and where applicable, promoting forgiveness in resolving emotional injuries.

Intimate relationships are understood on the dimension of attachment/security, involving closeness and distance as well as on the dimension of identity/autonomy, involving dominance and submission. This workshop will present ways of dealing with affect regulation in relation to both attachment and dominance issues in relationships. We will discuss and view tapes of working with the emotions related to, power and identity as well as intimacy and attachment, to transform vicious cycles into virtuous ones. The emotions of anxiety and sadness, related to threats to attachment security have to be addressed in addition to the emotions of fear, shame and anger related to intimacy such as warmth, love and caring as well as joy and excitement also are addressed. We will focus on promoting both other soothing and self soothing by helping partners regulate each other's and their own affects and where applicable by promoting forgiveness in resolving emotional injuries.

Outline - Morning

Introduction Emotion in marriage and couples

The nature of affect
The role of emotion in couple distress
Marital distress and affect regulation
Attachment and Identity and their emotions
The steps of EFT - The five stage Framework

Validation and alliance formaton
Negative cycle de-escalation
Accessing underlying feelings
Restructuring the negative interaction and the self
Consolidation and integration
Working on the affiliation dimension

Dealing with fear and sadness
Distance and blame
Recognizing the subjectivity of the other
Positive emotions of love, joy and excitement
Video demonstration
Working with identity and influence

Dealing with fear, shame and anger
Powerlessness and assertion
Dangers of improvement
Dealing with difference
Video demonstration
Resolving Emotional Injuries - The process of resolution

Anger and hurt
Revealing the impact of the injury
The apology
Video demonstrations
Letting go and forgiveness
Video demonstration
The workshop is designed to help you:

Understand the phenomenon of marital distress in the context of emotion and its role in intimacy and attachment as well as influence and identity
Learn to differentiate between adaptive attachment and identity oriented emotions and negative emotional reactions
Learn steps to promote forgiveness or letting go and reconciliation
Deal with issues related to rebuilding trust
To foster a more secure emotional bond between partners
Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy

To expand and re-organize key emotional responses
To create a shift in partner's interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction
To foster the creation of a trusting emotional bond between partners
Comments on Emotion-focused Marital Therapy

``A major contribution to the continuing evolution of emotion-focused couple therapy by providing a conceptually rich new methodology for helping couples improve their capacity for affect regulation``.

Alan S. Gurman, Ph.D.

Professor of Psychology

University of Wisconsin Medical School

The chapters on identity conflicts and dealing with specific emotions are a must read on for clinicians of all orientations

Keith J Edwards, Ph.D.

Professor of Psychology

Rosemead Schools of Psychology

Biola University LaMirada, CA

For fees, registration, directions and more click here

About the Facilitator:

Leslie Greenberg, Ph.D. is Distinguished Research Professor of Psychology at York University in Toronto, Ontario. He is the Director of the York University Psychotherapy Research clinic. He is the developer of an Emotion-focused approach to therapy. He has co-authored the major texts on emotion focused approaches to treatment. These include Emotion in Psychotherapy (1986) Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (1988), Facilitating Emotional Change (1993), Working with Emotions in Psychotherapy (1997), Emotion-focused therapy: Coaching clients to work through emotions (2002) and Emotion-focused therapy of Depression (2006). Most recently he has published Emotion-focused couples therapy: The dynamics of emotion, love and power. Emotion-focused therapy: Theory and practice (2010), Working with Narrative in Emotion-focused Therapy: Changing Stories, Healing Lives (2011). Therapeutic Presence (2011).

Dr. Greenberg is a founding member of the Society of the Exploration of Psychotherapy Integration (SEPI) and a past President of the Society for Psychotherapy Research (SPR) from which he received a Distinguished Research Career award in 2004 as well as the Carl Rogers award of the American Psychology Association. He also has received the Canadian Council of Professional Psychology Program Award for Excellence in Professional Training and the Canadian Psychological Association Professional Award for distinguished contributions to Psychology as a profession. He has been on the editorial board of many psychotherapy journals, including currently the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, Journal of Psychotherapy Integration. Journal of Clinical Psychology, Journal of Constructivist Psychology, Gestalt Review and Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.


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