Gabor and Daniel Maté
Leading Edge Seminars
Friday, Oct 18, 7-9pm — Isabel Bader Theatre
Saturday Oct 19, 9am to 4:40 pm & Sunday, Oct 20, 9am to 1pm — Toronto Metro-Central YMCA
If you think you’re so enlightened, go spend a week with your parents.
(Author and teacher, Ram Dass)
Gabor Maté is known for his ability to shine a spotlight on difficult issues with refreshing clarity and for his creative approaches in working with people and understanding ourselves. Now, along with his son Daniel, he tackles a common topic often overlooked: relationships between parents and their adult children. This weekend will provide insights into this often sticky reality and look at ways to promote understanding and reconciliation.
The parent-child relationship remains important into most people’s adult years, but too often its possibilities elude us. Indeed it can be difficult to even talk about. Family relationships are often fraught with complexity, and the unique relationship between parent and child can be challenging well into adulthood. Old dynamics have a way of clouding our views of one another in the present, giving rise to unpleasant reactions and interactions. Sometimes we seek to avoid conflict by keeping each other at an emotional arm’s length, creating yet another impediment to genuine connection.
For most of us, the relationship with a parent or an adult child is “just there”, at whatever level of quality or difficulty. We resign to it, take it for granted, or even feel defeated around it.
Yet the life journey of parent and child could remain until the end a fascinating and deeply fulfilling pilgrimage. Underneath the routine interactions, superficial communications, conflict, resentment or even alienation, is often a mutual, if hidden, desire for something more.
Gabor and Daniel Maté have been through their share of challenges. They contend that with the right kind of inquiry, attitude, and practice, you can successfully transform regrets, recriminations or wishful thoughts to tangible, present-moment possibility. In this interactive event, they invite you to unlock the tremendous potential of this crucial and changeable relationship, which is truly like no other. For many participants, this weekend will be the beginning of a new and exhilarating, and often challenging, lifelong conversation.
Moving beyond these repetitive patterns would free us up to relate to one another in the present and enjoy the many benefits of an authentic relationship. But how?
Gabor and Daniel will examine the historical source of old patterns with compassion, humour and insight, and – most importantly – helps clear the way for a new relationship, unencumbered by what came before.
This weekend program consists of two parts. Attendees are welcome to attend all three days/ Friday evening only.
You Will Learn:
What makes the parent/adult child relationship uniquely challenging
Why each partner finds it so difficult to experience the other in the present moment
What it means to set an intention for a renewed, authentic relationship
The importance of building structures that will support a new relationship
Some techniques of “trouble-shooting” when difficulties arise
About the Presenters:
Gabor Maté is a retired physician who, after 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience, worked for over a decade in Vancouver’s Downtown East Side with patients challenged by drug addiction and mental illness. The bestselling author of four books published in twenty-five languages, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Gabor is an internationally renowned speaker highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, childhood development, and the relationship of stress and illness. For his groundbreaking medical work and writing he has been awarded the Order of Canada.
Daniel Maté is an acclaimed musical theatre writer, a recipient of the prestigious Kleban Prize and Cole Porter Award for his music and lyrics. His latest musical, Hansel & Gretl & Heidi & Günter—a show about intergenerational trauma and gingerbread houses—will have its world premiere production next season at Village Theatre in Seattle, WA. Daniel is currently working with his father on two books, including the book version of Hello Again.
Friday Night/Saturday/Sunday: $325
Friday Night Only: $40