Terrence Real, MSW, LICSW
Leading Edge Seminars, Inc
Thursday, May 9, and Friday, May 10, 2013 • 2-day workshop, 9:00 am to 4:30 pm • YWCA Elm Centre, 87 Elm Street, Toronto
The cardinal rule of traditional couples therapy is “Thou shalt not take sides”. Under the guise of “winning trust” and “being even-handed”, most therapists back off telling difficult people, particularly difficult men, the truth about their behaviour. Terry Real, in contrast, takes sides by perfecting the art of holding people accountable in a loving and respectful manner in an approach he created, called Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
Many couples today expect a level of physical, intellectual, and emotional intimacy never before imagined by previous generations. Unfortunately, few have the relationship skills needed to achieve this. RLT addresses the asymmetry between the relational appetites and skills that people bring to their relationships and provides ways to challenge the losing strategies partners use.
You will learn how to coach couples to proactively go for what they want, speak to repair, listen with empathy, respond with generosity, and take the time to cherish each other. You will also learn how to present the truth of what you see happening in a relationship, without the need to diffuse your impact by trying to be even-handed. The treatment of sexual issues — from low desire to sex addiction — will be addressed in particular. This workshop will include a live demonstration of the RLT approach, featuring an interview between Terry and a real-life couple.
While this workshop is for all counselling professionals, couples and individuals from the community are welcome to attend.
You will learn —
How to quickly diagnose and articulate the couple’s core issues using The Relational Grid™
How to “take sides” and skillfully confront difficult truths
About the process of forming a true alliance with difficult partners by precisely identifying what they are doing that is dysfunctional, the negative consequences of not changing, and the rewards of changing
How to use the relationship to produce dramatic character transformation
Strategies for working with grandiosity and shame
To address how relationship issues impact upon sexuality
About the Presenter:
Terrence Real, MSW, LICSW, is the New York Times best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It and How Can I Get Through to You? He has been a family therapist and teacher for over 20 years, and his most recent book is The New Rules of Marriage. Terry is a senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a former clinical fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona. In 2002, he founded the Relational Life Institute to help women and men find true connection and satisfaction. His work has been featured on “20/20” and “Oprah”, and he is the Relationship and Family Expert for “Good Morning America” and “ABC News”. See www.terryreal.com for more information.