F*ck Feelings: One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems by Michael I. Bennett and Sarah Benn
Here’s another of the books I’m always seeing you folks pick up at conferences. There’s been a bunch of recent publications with f*ck in the title. Maybe we’ve matured enough as a society that we can swear a little and not take it so seriously. This book definitely posits that humour and wit are essential for life’s impossible problems. In fact, the authors – a psychiatrist and his daughter - write, the reason we have so many issues with relationships, self esteem, drugs, family, work, etc. is because those types of problems actually are impossible, or at least out of our control to fix. What is better is to work on how to manage our reactions and temper our expectations. It is not that we should give up the struggle, but rather that we should stop beating ourselves up if we can’t wave our magic wands and take away complicated grief, or the effects of childhood trauma. This book cleverly and tenderly weaves strategies of CBT, DBT, positive psychology, self compassion as well as some tough love (think Judge Judy) to come up with realistic solutions to some of life’s toughest and intractable eff-ups. What’s better, this book is funny! At the very least, you will laugh at how hard you’ve been trying to fix the unfixable. I think this book is great!
F*ck Feelings: One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems