A practical roadmap for parents of children aged 2-13 to effective, productive, and more peaceful discipline, highlighting the important connection between the way a parent reacts to misbehavior and a child’s neurological development.
When we discipline our children, we want to do more than just stop bad behavior. We want to peacefully coach them toward future better behavior. In No-Drama Discipline, pioneering neuropsychiatrist Dan Siegel and brain-based parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson show us how to turn difficult parenting moments into opportunities to do this. The way parents react to misbehavior, they show, will shape a child’s brain for better or worse. Drs. Siegel and Bryson teach us how we can more effectively teach our children important life lessons while also helping them make positive neural connections. Using cutting-edge brain science, real-life parenting stories, ultra-practical techniques, and simple, playful cartoons to illustrate the core concepts, they show how parents can help their children develop neurologically while minimizing the reactivity, drama, teeth gnashing, and tears that so often characterize disciplinary interactions.
Reviews and Endorsements:
“With lucid, engaging prose accompanied by cartoon illustrations, [Daniel J.] Siegel and [Tina Payne] Bryson help parents teach and communicate more effectively.”—Publishers Weekly
“A lot of fascinating insights…an eye-opener worth reading.”—Parents
“Insightful…The ideas presented in this latest book can actually be applied to all of our relationships, as it will help us in many circumstances to be able to calm down, have empathy for another person, and then communicate in a constructive way about our concerns and proposed solutions. What works to help children learn and behave better might also help our world’s leaders and large groups of people get along better, as many of us adults failed to develop these mindsight skills as we were growing up and we tend to sabotage our relationships with others as a result. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, or just a person who wishes to learn to get along better with others, you may find some valuable insights in No-Drama Discipline.”—Examiner.com
“Wow! This book grabbed me from the very first page and did not let go. Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson explain extremely well why punishment is a dead-end strategy. Then they describe what to do instead. By making the latest breakthroughs in brain science accessible to any parent, they show why empathy and connection are the royal road to cooperation, discipline, and family harmony.”—Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of The Opposite of Worry
“Using simple and clear explanations, practical advice, and cartoons that make the how-to guidance come alive, this book is a rich resource for families trying to navigate meltdowns and misunderstandings. It explains how neurobiology drives children’s infuriating and puzzling behavior and will help parents make their way through the trenches of a typical day with grace, mutual respect, and a good helping of delight.”—Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee
“What a relief! Siegel and Bryson take the difficulty out of discipline, for parents or anyone who has to help kids behave. No-Drama Discipline offers a research-based, commonsense approach that any grown-up will be happy to use, and any kid will benefit from.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
“Frustrated parents often ask me why the disciplinary techniques they are using with their children aren’t working, or are even making things worse. I have not always known what to say, because I was not always sure I understood what was going wrong. Now I know. No-Drama Discipline unlocks the secrets of discipline: what works and what doesn’t, and why—and what to do when you are pulling your hair out. Simply put, Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s insights and techniques will make you a better parent. I know I will be using the concepts from this extraordinarily helpful book for years to come.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of Raising Cain
About the Authors:
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, codirector of UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center, and executive director of the MindSight Institute. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and two teenage children.
Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., is a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist and Director of Parenting Education and Development for the Mindsight Institute. The mother of three young children, she lives in San Marino, CA.