A revelatory book from two leading couples therapists, this is the introduction to the psychobiological approach to couples therapy. Operating on the premise that couples become stuck in mutually-reinforcing patterns of behavior that limit their ability to communicate, and framing these patterns within each partner's unique attachment history, the authors use detailed, poignant examples to demonstrate assessment, intervention, and regulation techniques that deescalate arousal and promote connection and understanding.
Neuroscience and couples therapy come together to help couples break patterns of bad behavior.
What happens between partners that makes love turn to war? How can couples therapists help de-escalate the battles? Here, two leading therapists apply the latest neuroscience research on emotional arousal to teach readers to help couples regulate each other’s emotions, maintain their secure attachment, and foster positive relationships.
"Reading this book was a sheer pleasure, and I did not skip a word. It is an artful theoretical and clinical integration with no wasted words....In this innovative couple therapy, they have documented the healing power of couples learning to take care of each other and put to rest the myth of the healing capacity of the autonomous self. I recommend this instructive book to all therapists....I hope this project gets lots of deserved attention."-Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want
About the Authors:
Marion F. Solomon, PhD, is Director of Training at the Lifespan Learning Institute. She lives in Los Angeles.
Stan Tatkin, PSYD, maintains a practice in Calabasas, California. He lives in Calabasas.