When men are abused, everybody suffers.
This courageous book exposes a dark secret: Men are often victims of abuse. Although a great deal of attention has recently been paid to the victimization of women, the role of men as victims--not just perpetrators--has been neglected. The Abuse of Men reveals the impact of physical, sexual, and emotional trauma on the lives and relationships of men.
This groundbreaking book shows how the negative effects of both basic training and combat may also cause lasting damage to men's self-esteem, ability to trust, personal boundaries, and ability to form healthy relationships. The Abuse of Men explores the prevalence of other kinds of violence and abuse toward men and boys, from child-battering to spousal abuse. It also discusses how the culture of violence and societal expectations of boys and men can help drive victims of abuse toward continuing the cycle of violence.
The Abuse of Men discusses the sources of trauma, including:
the quality and quantity of domestic violence committed by women against men
the role of abusive fathers in raising sons who become abusers
vicarious traumatization from living with partners whose uncontrolled PTSD makes them dangerously abusive
hazing, military training, and other socially sanctioned male-on-male violence
trauma contagion and transactional victimizing
The Abuse of Men also offers specific suggestions for therapists working with abused men and their partners, including an innovative step-by-step program for treating couples who have both been traumatized. By understanding how men and boys become victims and respond to trauma, you can help heal their pain and teach them to build positive, loving relationships.
Reviews: “USEFUL FOR BOTH STUDENTS AND PRACTITIONERS. Specifically, those in the helping professions can benefit from the UNIQUE PERSPECTIVES AND INFORMATION. . . . Anyone interested in understanding the dynamics of abused males will find this book helpful.”
Divine, Inc. - Health Sciences Book Review
“AN IN-DEPTH LOOK AT THIS IMPORTANT ISSUE. . . . Addresses the impact of physical, sexual, and emotional trauma on men’s relationships, as well as all other aspects of their lives. . . . Offers suggestions for professionals who work with abused men and their partners.”
The Children’s Rights of New York, Inc. Hotline
“ADDRESSES A TOPIC THAT HAS BEEN NEGLECTED. . . . This book is unique in adopting a systemic perspective that focuses not solely on the males who have been abused but also on their partners and family members. . . . Gives detailed and specific directions for intervening with couples who have experienced multiple traumas.”
Joseph A. Micucci, PhD, Associate Professor of Psychology, Chestnut Hill College, Pennsylvania
“MULTIDIMENSIONAL. . . . Through case study, personal narrative, and a review of research, this informative book WILL UNDOUBTEDLY PROMOTE DISCUSSION among practitioners, educators, and researchers concerned with family violence and couples.”
Nicholas Mazza, PhD, Professor of Social Work, Florida State University, Tallahassee
Models of Perceiving the World: Relationship as Hierarchy
Vicariously Traumatized: Male Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors
The Impact of the Abuse of Males on Intimate Relationships
Abuse Committed by Women Against Male Intimates
Men Helping Boys Become Men
Intertraumatic Dissociative Attachment: Treating Trauma-Based Transactions in Couples
Reference Notes Included
from the publisher's website