Do you ever wonder why you don't seem to be 'getting over' your grief?
Do you ever get annoyed by people's pop psychoanalysis of your loss?
Do you ever catch yourself wondering 'I never thought loss would be like this'?
In this powerful and moving book, 25 everyday Australians reflect upon these questions and more, as they describe their own unique experiences of grief. They mourn for their spouses, friends, parents, children, or siblings. Some mourn for members of a community which has become part of their identity; others remember the patients they have treated, or the animal companions which were part of their heart and home. Contributors to this book are from diverse social backgrounds – they are men, women and children of different occupations, ethnicity, sexuality and age groups.
For the first time, we hear the voices of people who are at the very centre of the experience of grief – no professional theorising, no 'stages' or 'models' of grief, and no judgments. This is a welcome and long overdue book for those of us who want to understand our own experience, and the experience of others, at home, work or school, who have lost someone they love.
Allan Kellehear: 'Most grief, however complex and difficult to live with, is normal. We don't need 'therapy' or 'pills'. We just need to understand it - and find some meaning and sense in it. Sometimes we need some extra support. But most of the time we battle on with the battle inside our hearts. Grief is like that. Much of life is like that. And finally, we have a book that tells it like that.'
Introduction: The Grief That Time Forgot
Chapter 1: Dynamite Jean
Chapter 2: Angie
Chapter 3: An Alien Place
Jacqueline Kinsey Bambery
Chapter 4: Darling Little Frankie
Chapter 5: Forever
Chapter 6: How Life Changes
Chapter 7: Remembering Pater
Chapter 8: The Language of the Dead
Chapter 9: The Road to Nowhere
Chapter 10: Hallowed Ground
Chapter 11: A Good Death
Chapter 12: Being Dead is Being Something
Chapter 13: A Shopping Bag from Harrods
Chapter 14: 'Pockets'
Chapter 15: My Baby Sister Isobell
Chapter 16: It's So Unfare
Cheryl-Lee M Charles
Chapter 17: The Mean of Paul
Chapter 18: My Brother
Chapter 19: The Butter Dish
Chapter 20: She Smiles
Chapter 21: Ron's Story
Chapter 22: So Much Unfinished
Chapter 23: The Eulogy
AND MORE FRIENDS
Chapter 24: Letter to Lucy
Chapter 26: Pepi
Chapter 26: Grief: A Part of Life
About the Editor:
Allan Kellehear, PhD (UNSW) is a sociologist. He is Foundation Professor of Palliative Care and Director of the Palliative Care Unit, Faculty of Health Sciences, La Trobe University in Melbourne and an adjunct Professorial Fellow in the Department of General Practice, University of Melbourne Medical School. In 2000, he was British Academy Visiting Professor at the University of Bath and the Religious Experience Research Centre at Westminster College, Oxford. He was previously Professor and Head of Research Development at Turning Point Alcohol and Drug Centre in Fitzroy – a non-government research and clinical services organisation affiliated with the University of Melbourne and St Vincent's Hospital.
His 14 books include textbooks, scholarly monographs and popular works. His more recent books include Eternity and Me: The everlasting things in life and death (Hill of Content Publishing, Melbourne, 2000) and Death and Dying in Australia (Oxford University Press, Melbourne, 2000).