Sexuality is multi-causal and multi-dimensional, with large individual, couple, cultural, and value differences. Each person and couple deserve to experience sexuality as a positive factor in their lives and relationships. Enhancing Couple Sexuality is an accessible guide that will help you to explore couple sexuality, with a focus on promoting healthy sexuality and overcoming sexual dysfunction, conflict and avoidance.
The couple challenge, regardless of relationship status or sexual orientation, is to integrate intimacy and eroticism into your relationship, while reinforcing the new sexual mantra of desire/pleasure/eroticism/satisfaction. Healthy sexuality is a combination of responsibility for your authentic sexual self and being an intimate sexual team. Each chapter in this book presents scientifically-validated guidelines, a compelling case study, and a psychosexual skill exercise to make every concept personal and concrete.
Enhancing Couple Sexuality will motivate and empower couples to create and maintain a satisfying, secure, and sexual relationship. Whether you are married or dating, 25 or 65, this valuable resource will provide strategies to enhance your sexual relationship now and in the future.
"In plain language the McCarthys give us the recipe for the secret sauce that makes sex pleasurable in long-term relationships. Readers will learn that with equal measures of wisdom and sensitivity, a dash of spice, and some gentle stirring, even relationships that have cooled can simmer again."
Kathryn Hall, PhD; president, Society for Sex Therapy and Research; co-editor of Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy
"This is an incredible book – easy to read, couple friendly, and evidence-based. So many individuals would benefit from reading this thoughtful manuscript before and after establishing relationships."
R. Taylor Segraves, M.D., editor, Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
"Enhancing Couple Sexuality is my top pick for a great book about sex for couples. The McCarthys engage couples with thoughtfulness, warmth, and reassuring guidance. In this book, they provide up-to-date research on sexual functioning, neuroplasticity and sexual response, as well as attachment and attunement as part of sexuality. Their practical approaches solving sexual dilemmas provide us with a treasure trove of the erotic, playful, sensual ways to grow, adapt, and accommodate sex in relationships throughout a couple’s life."
Sallie Foley, nationally known sex therapist and author
Table of Contents
1. Sex Myths: Old and New 2. The New Sexual Mantra 3. Psychobiosocial Model for Understanding and Change 4. Female-Male Sexual Equity 5. Dimensions of Touch, Pleasure, and Sexuality 6. Good Enough Sex (GES) 7. Integrating Intimacy and Eroticism 8. Your Couple Sexual Style 9. Personal Responsibility/Intimate Sexual Team 10. The Paradox of Sexuality 11. Vulnerabilities and Challenges 12. Sexuality and Aging 13. Sexually, One Size Never Fits All 14. Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy Appendix A Appendix B References
About the Authors
Barry McCarthy is a professor of psychology at American University, a diplomate in clinical psychology, a diplomate in sex therapy, and a certified couple therapist. He has published over 115 professional articles, 32 book chapters, and 17 books. He has presented over 450 professional workshops nationally and internationally. In 2016, he received the SSTAR Masters and Johnson award for lifetime contributions to the sex therapy field.
Emily McCarthy received a B.S. degree in speech communication, and her writing and wisdom provides a balanced, humanistic perspective. This is Emily and Barry’s 14th co-authored book.