Recovering from any broken relationship is difficult, but when one partner is a narcissist, extracting yourself from the union and healing from the emotional damage can be overwhelming. Using stories from her practice, Margalis Fjelstad helps “caretakers” heal from their broken relationships and navigate the rocky waters post-break up.
Must-read for anyone struggling with the ending of a relationship with a narcissist. Dr. Fjelstad clearly and powerfully lays out what you need to do for yourself to heal from the ravages of a relationship with a narcissist. I love her straight-forward way of describing the narcissist, as well as her direct, no-nonsense way of describing the caretaker - the enabler of the narcissist. If you want to heal from the end of your relationships with a narcissist, as well as not repeat your same patterns in your next relationship, this book is for you.
— Margaret Paul, PhD, co-creator of Inner Bonding; author of Inner Bonding; co-author of Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and Healing Your Aloneness
Margalis Fjelstad does a wonderfully thorough job of helping to understand what motivates the narcissist and in recognizing the partner’s role in the relationship. However, this book is not just about being in relationship with a narcissist. It is chock-full of valuable insights for other difficult relationships as well. Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship explores the identical Issues I’ve focused on with couples for the last 30 years. I especially appreciate the attention she gives to expectations and disappointments, the Drama Triangle, overly-controlling behavior, lack of personal boundaries, rejection and taking things personally.
— Elayne Savage, PhD, relationship and workplace coach; professional speaker; author of Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection and Breathing Room – Creating Space to Be a Couple
Margalis Fjelstad provides a complete overview and does exactly what the subtitle says, guides the caretaker to recovery, empowerment and transformation. Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship goes much farther than clinical knowledge and gets to the feelings of hurt and betrayal; offering a great deal of knowledge of what it's really like to have a narcissistic partner.
— Randi Kreger, borderline and narcissistic personality disorders expert and advocate for families, the author/coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder
About the Author:
Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, LMFT, works with clients who are in relationship to someone who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, and she facilitates groups on Caretaker recovery. She has previously been an Adjunct Faculty member at Regis University in Colorado Springs and at California State University in Sacramento. She is the author of the hugely popular Rowman & Littlefield title Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist.