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Becoming a Therapist: What Do I Say, and Why? : Second Edition
Suzanne Bender and Edward Messner
Guilford Press / Softcover / 2022-05-01 / 1462549462
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Revised and expanded for the digital age, this trusted guidebook and text helps novice psychotherapists of any orientation bridge the gap between coursework and clinical practice. It offers a window into what works and what doesn't work in interactions with patients, the ins and outs of the therapeutic relationship, and how to manage common clinical dilemmas. Featuring rich case examples, the book speaks directly to the questions, concerns, and insecurities of novice clinicians. Reproducible forms to aid in treatment planning can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8½“ x 11” size.

New to This Edition:

• Reflects two decades of technological changes—covers how to develop email and texting policies, navigate social media, use electronic medical records, and optimize teletherapy.
• New chapters on professional development and on managing the impact of therapist life events (pregnancy and parental leave, vacations, medical issues).
• Instructive discussion of systemic racism, cultural humility, and implicit bias.
• Significantly revised chapter on substance use disorders, with a focus on motivational interviewing techniques.
• Reproducible/downloadable Therapist Tools.


“A practical, no-nonsense guide to the process of psychotherapy....This book is a valuable and refreshing resource for both novice therapists and their patients. Though the target audience for this text is psychotherapists in training, it also provides valuable insights for clinicians of all levels and for anyone who wants to take a peek at the inner workings of psychotherapy.”

—The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry (on the first edition)

“This book fills a gap in clinical training for psychotherapy, offering helpful strategies for handling many issues that arise. I recommend it for all psychiatric residents and for other students of mental health disciplines. It will also be useful to supervisors and more experienced practitioners who are interested in reflecting upon their approach and in carefully considering the therapeutic impact of the words they use.”

—The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry (on the first edition)

“This book is a must-read for every novice psychotherapist, as well as for psychotherapy supervisors and instructors. Even experienced therapists would likely benefit from the examples discussed in this book as a ‘refresher’ for practical examples of techniques to apply in common clinical encounters. I applaud Drs. Bender and Messner for writing such a relevant, practical, and needed guide for novice therapists....Psychiatry residents, psychology students and interns, social workers, and clinical counselors could all benefit immensely from this well written text. Additionally, psychotherapy supervisors could use this text as a reference for trainees. I believe this text should become an integral part of, if not required reading for, the psychotherapy curriculum in psychiatry residency programs.”

—Journal of Psychiatric Practice (on the first edition)

“This is a beautifully conceptualized and written book. It was carefully planned to cover all main practical issues in psychotherapy and it covers them….The wealth and quality of therapist–patient dialogues is a great feature. I recommend this book to any beginning therapist, especially to psychiatric residents. I also recommend it to more experienced therapists to brush up on their therapeutic skills. All practicing clinicians could benefit from reviewing issues presented in this volume. I also suggest that this book become a required reading in residency training programs.”

—Annals of Clinical Psychiatry (on the first edition)

“This book addresses many questions faced by a novice clinician, offers useful advice, and provides a good starting point on which a young therapist can begin his or her career. Becoming a Therapistwould appeal to psychiatry residents, psychology interns, social workers, and psychiatric nurses. Nonprofessionals who are interested in learning the basic process of therapy would also find the book accessible because of its restrained use of technical terminology.”

—Psychiatric Services (on the first edition)

“Bender and Messner offer a highly engaging, nonjudgmental, and clear description of the nuts and bolts of therapy. Practical tools, real-world scripts, and excellent case examples make this book stand out. With its down-to-earth approach, this book provides a wealth of knowledge and wisdom for beginning therapists!”

—Pamela A. Hays, PhD, author of Addressing Cultural Complexities in Counseling and Clinical Practice

“I highly recommend this text for master's-level clinical mental health counseling courses. Bender and Messner provide very practical 'dos and don’ts' for developing the therapeutic relationship and maintaining the therapeutic alliance. The training process for beginning counselors can be extremely anxiety provoking, as students move from hypothetical situations to actual client interactions and engagement. Becoming a Therapist, Second Edition, recognizes and honors the transition to clinical practice and provides real-time support for students' feelings and experiences”

—Robtrice D. Brawner, PhD, LCPC, Department of Psychology, Professional Counseling, and Neuroscience, University of Wisconsin–Parkside

“For years, I’ve recommended Becoming a Therapist to trainees seeking a thoughtful, accessible approach to learning psychotherapy, as well as to faculty supervising them. The second edition is even better than the first, expanding its reach to so many topics relevant for 21st-century practice. Bender and Messner exhibit a unique ability to connect with the beginner’s mind and provide wise guidance on complex topics. Reading this book is like conversing with the authors about a range of everyday tricky situations in clinical practice, and leaving with a treasure trove of ideas, scripts, tools, and further resources to try out.”

—Donna T. Chen, MD, MPH, Department of Psychiatry and Neurobehavioral Sciences, University of Virginia

“As a career psychiatric educator and as a therapist, I have reviewed all sorts of books about how to practice psychotherapy. Becoming a Therapist is still my favorite and most useful resource. Bender and Messner provide easily digested, readily applicable answers to fundamental questions that often go unasked or are considered in too cerebral a fashion. The updated second edition addresses important societal changes and clinical advances, and is absolutely essential. Anyone who practices psychotherapy or is training to become a practitioner should have a copy on the shelf. Without question, this is the most valuable resource I have encountered about the difficult and immensely rewarding art of psychotherapy.”

—Steven Schlozman, MD, Department of Psychiatry, Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth

Table of Contents:

Foreword,Nhi-Ha Trinh

I. The Consultation

1. First Contact [ pdf sample chapter ]

2. The First Moments

3. Initiating an Alliance and Assessing Safety

4. Enhancing the Therapeutic Alliance and Eliciting History

5. Collecting a Psychosocial History and Screening for Common Psychological Disorders

6. Creating a Formulation and a Treatment Plan

II. Frame and Variations

7. The Frame

8. Setting the Fee and Billing

9. Telephone Calls and Emails: From Dependencies to Emergencies

10. No-Shows, Late Arrivals, and Late Departures

11. When the Therapist’s Life Affects the Frame: Vacations, Pregnancies, and Illness

12. Confidentiality and Its Limits

III. Chemistry

13. Substance Use Disorders

14. Integrating Psychopharmacology with Psychotherapy

IV. Therapeutic Dilemmas

15. Managing Impasses

16. Empathic Lapses

17. Transference and Countertransference

18. Termination

V. Being a Therapist

19. Professional Development


Additional Readings



About the Authors:

Suzanne Bender, MD, is a Staff Psychiatrist in the Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH and Assistant Professor in Psychiatry, part-time, at Harvard Medical School. Within the Department of Pediatric Gastroenterology (GI) and Nutrition Department at MGH for Children (MGHfC), she is the Co-Director of the MGHfC Pediatric GI Psychiatry program. Dr. Bender teaches a weekly year-long course on child and adolescent psychodynamic psychotherapy in the MGH/McLean Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Fellowship Program. She has received five departmental teaching awards and three departmental mentoring awards from the graduating classes of the Child Psychiatry Fellowship. Dr. Bender has a private practice in Newton, Massachusetts, specializing in psychotherapy and psychopharmacology with children, adolescents, and adults.

Edward Messner, MD, until his death in 2006, was a Senior Psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) and Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Messner trained as a psychiatrist at the Boston VA Hospital, at Boston’s Thom Clinic, and at MGH. He also graduated from the Boston Psychoanalytic Institute as a certified psychoanalyst. Dr. Messner received the Teacher of the Year award from the MGH Department of Psychiatry eight times. To honor him and his qualities of “kindness, compassion, understanding, insightfulness, humility, and selflessness in his daily work with patients and as an untiring teacher and supervisor of residents,” the MGH/McLean Adult Psychiatry Residency created the Edward Messner Faculty and Resident Awards in 2008. These awards annually recognize outstanding and committed teaching in Adult Psychiatry by both a faculty member and a graduating resident.

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