Some problems just don't seem to go away. Another season goes by, and you're still behind the same desk, even though the promotion you wanted didn't come through again. Month after month, you and your spouse quarrel about the same old issues. And you still haven't lost the weight you wanted to lose, or kept up that exercise program. You make resolutions, or promise yourself you'll think of a plan. Time passes, and nothing happens. You're right back where you were, and nothing has changed.
According to best-selling self-help authors McKay and Fanning, four major core beliefs keep us from solving our problems: we tell ourselves that we just don't deserve to get what we want, we tell ourselves that the world is too dangerous for us to risk a change, we tell ourselves that we're too incompetent to fix our problem, or we tell ourselves that others are more important and that their needs should always come first.
Start solving your problems by assessing which core beliefs are holding you back. The book offers you strategies you can use to overcome these inhibiting beliefs. Then discover problem-solving strategies that will help you deal with any problem you might face, including step-by-step instructions to help you assess the problem, brainstorm possible solutions, evaluate the consequences of each solution, and develop an action plan to put the best of the new solutions into practice. The cycle closes with an evaluation of how the problem solving process is going and an assessment of what you might change to improve any particular outcome.
About the Authors:
Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is the clinical director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco. He lives in Berkeley, CA.
Patrick Fanning is the best-selling author of nine popular self-help guides. He lives in Graton, CA.