Cutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt.
Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person—even as painful and scary as that may sound—would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty—especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way.
In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships.
Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.
“Sherrie Campbell’s Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members equips people to maintain their health, even in the wake of damaging family relationships. A source of encouragement to those who have experienced family abuse, the book discusses when and how to set no-contact boundaries—the central piece of its approach. Then it addresses the complicated, conflicting emotions, like relief and shame, that follow from cutting ties with a family member.... With a tone of unshakable support, the book takes a reassuring yet firm approach, intoning that abuse is not okay, and that people should not put up with it, no matter from whom it comes. Campbell supports each notion with personal experiences and research, including from social and behavioral psychology. Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members is a self-help guide to ending and healing from toxic relationships.”
“Sherrie Campbell has written a must-read for anyone who has cut ties with toxic family members. Her book brings together the critical elements desperately needed for overcoming childhood shame, and guides her readers through every stage of emotional healing while helping them create self-empowering boundaries. Each chapter of her book offers profound insights into the most common struggles faced by adult survivors of toxic family dynamics.”
—Kim Saeed, author of How to Do No Contact Like a Boss!
“Sherrie Campbell has written a number of must-read books on dealing with toxic family members and loving yourself in the aftermath. Her latest book is yet another gem that will resonate with anyone seeking support for overcoming toxic relationships. Her book is a must-read for mental health professionals because this area of trauma is too often ill-informed and misunderstood. Read this book and connect with Campbell on social media for knowledge that will help you thrive!”
—Dan Pierce, founder of Mentally Fit, and Thrive Global contributor
“Until I read this book, no self-help book had enabled me to cut ties with my toxic family, or to heal and deal with the aftermath. I followed Sherrie Campbell’s blueprint step by step. Her work eased the lifetime pain in my soul in weeks. This book is helpful for survivors of this type of trauma, and also the clinicians who come across this topic in their office. This book brought me back to my estranged father to receive forgiveness before he died, and discover a shocking truth I never knew. I can only describe what occurred as a supernatural event. I was an emotionally broken child and a self-worth chaser. I am now a perfectly broken adult, with secure boundaries in place, more emotionally mature, and I know I am enough.”
—Tom Dutta, award-winning Canadian CEO, international best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and radio and film producer
“Sherrie Campbell offers a unique and true-to-life view of what it means to separate yourself from toxic family members. She clarifies what toxic family abuse is, the impacts it has on creating lifelong feelings of shame and confusion, and she gives the reader practical steps to heal their lives, so the abuse stops with them. Campbell isn’t just an expert, but also a survivor, which makes her more relatable to those who are living through this type of pain. Campbell believes that readers coping with this type of trauma often need another survivor more than an expert to truly understand the complexities of moving away from toxic family abuse. In this book, you are given full permission to feel what you were never allowed to feel or speak about.”
—Jack Canfield, coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Soul® series and The Success Principles™: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
“With compassion and empathy, Sherrie Campbell’s words wrap around the reader, providing a clear guide to authentic healing from toxic relationships. Campbell weaves vulnerable vignettes of her experiences as a woman who decidedly exited a toxic environment, and openly shares them. She offers readers guidance while providing missing puzzle pieces. She demonstrates that it is possible to be free of a haunting, toxic family and live a fulfilled life centered in peace. I highly recommend Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members to those who desire true freedom moving forward in their lives.”
—Julie Lokun, JD, masters certified life coach and facilitator of dreams at Crown & Compass Life Coaching, LLC
“Before interviewing Sherrie Campbell a couple of years ago, I innocently said, ‘It must have been so difficult to choose to cut your family out of your life.’ To which she quickly responded, ‘It wasn’t a choice, it was something I had to do to survive.’ This was an ‘aha’ moment for me. Campbell, through her expertise and personal knowledge, guides those who are experiencing toxic family pain and offers them a practical path to heal, survive, and ultimately thrive. As a survivor herself, Campbell is the perfect voice to help individuals who are suffering from this unimaginable familial trauma and shame, and gives them permission to set lifesaving boundaries to break free. I look forward to recommending Campbell’s newest book, Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members.”
—Robi Ludwig, PsyD, TV personality, psychotherapist, and author
“Sometimes the healthiest thing to do is practice firm boundaries with toxic people, even if it’s with your family. Sherrie Campbell uses compassion, her expertise, and a direct approach in this book to change your life forever. It contains a wealth of information about toxic family members, and will give anyone who reads it incredibly helpful knowledge on how to prepare mentally and emotionally to go no-contact with family members, grieve the loss of these relationships, and maintain healthy boundaries. From Campbell, we can all learn that healing the wounds of misunderstanding comes not from getting others to understand you, but from having the courage to stand alone against all odds.”
—Julie Hefner, author of Nourishing Your Body and Soul
About the Author:
Sherrie Campbell, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in helping healthy people cut ties with the toxic people in their lives. She is a nationally recognized expert on family estrangement, an inspirational speaker, former radio host of the Dr. Sherrie Show on BBM Global Network and Tune-In Radio, a social media influencer, and a regularly featured media expert.
Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and author Disarming the Narcissist.