Psychologists Anne Hilde Vassbø Hagen and Joanne Dolhanty explain everything you need to know about your child’s anger and how to manage it. Anger can be normal and healthy when it enables us to stand up for ourselves and defend against injustice. However, it can also lead to aggression—even violence—while also hiding other, more vulnerable emotions. For instance, an angry child may be hiding embarrassment, shame, disappointment, sadness, loneliness, or fear. As a parent, it is your job to help your child understand their anger, express it in an appropriate way, and address the underlying need. In Angry Kids, Angry Parents you will learn how to respond to your child’s anger in a sensitive and productive way that validates their feelings, addresses their needs, and teaches them to manage their own anger. It can be nerve-wracking to watch your child explode in rage. This book will teach you how to stay calm and protect your boundaries. Supported by years of psychological research and therapeutic practice, the strategies in this practical, compassionate book will help any parent who struggles with their child’s anger. Table of Contents: Introduction: Anger Can Be Useful I. The Power of Anger Chapter 1. Constructive Versus Destructive Anger Chapter 2. Challenge 1: Anger as a Cloaking Device Chapter 3. Challenge 2: New Day, Same Old AngerChapter 4. Challenge 3: Adopting the Stance of Anger Chapter 5. Challenge 4: When Anger Gets Aggressive II. Responding to Your Child’s Anger Chapter 6. The Art of Validating Anger Chapter 7. From Validation to Problem Solving Chapter 8. Troubleshooting While Validating Chapter 9. But I’m Not a Robot: Parents Have Feelings, Too Chapter 10. The Magic of Apology III. Setting and Enforcing Limits Chapter 11. All About Boundaries Chapter 12. Setting Limits Chapter 13. Giving Consequences Chapter 14. Troubleshooting While Setting Limits Afterword
About the Authors: Anne Hilde Vassbø Hagen is a psychologist and leader of The Institute for Psychological Counseling and Norwegian Institute for Emotion Focused Therapy. She is the mother of 8-year-old twin girls and just welcomed a baby boy to her family. She has further education in emotion focused skills training for parents (ESFT), emotion focused individual therapy and couples' therapy, clinical adult psychology, and work with children. IPR's work includes therapy, training, and supervision of therapists, expert work, research, and conferences, as well as the dissemination of the emotion focused approach. Hagen is the writer, creator, and producer of the popular Alfred & Shadow educational film series which were made in collaboration with Council for Mental Health. The films are produced in Norwegian and English and can be found on the YouTube channel #aboutemotions and the films have about 1.8 million views and are widely used in teaching and therapy. Hagen has written three books and received two book scholarships from the Norwegian Association of Authors and Translators. Joanne Dolhanty, PhD, CPsych, is a supervising and consulting clinical psychologist and the mother of two young-adult sons. She has a doctorate in clinical psychology from York University in Toronto, Canada, and has extensive training in the emotion focused approach. She is a certified supervisor with the International Society for Emotion Focused Therapy, and provides trainings to individuals, parents, professionals, and organizations through the Emotion-Focused Therapy Clinic, York University and through institutions in countries around the globe. With Dr. Leslie Greenberg, Dr. Dolhanty developed the application of emotion focused therapy to eating disorders. She is the developer of EFST, an Emotion Focused Skills Training program that brings the benefits of Emotion Focused Therapy to the broader population in a simplified format. EFST promotes transformations in difficult feelings, in relationships, and in stubborn behaviors via short-term experiential learning of emotion focused skills. Dr. Dolhanty is known for her ability to reach, relate to, and have a positive and lasting impact on hugely diverse populations of parents all around the world with her delivery of EFST, online, or in-person. |