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Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed | Seminar on 4 DVDs
Behary, Wendy T., MSW, LCSW
PESI, Inc. / DVD on sale / 2013-01-01 / X45600
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NOTE: The seminar manual, CE information, and CE test are contained on disc #1 in PDF format. To access these documents, play disc #1 in your computer. For the video presentation, begin playing disc #1 in your DVD player.

“...Wendy Behary walks us through easy-to-understand explanations of how the mind of a narcissist works...”

-Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.

Intelligent - Self-confident - Arrogant - Condescending - Incapable of empathy - Charming - Selfish

Narcissistic clients can be your most challenging clients.

This seminar recording will show you how to move past the narcissist’s defenses to gain and maintain leverage in therapy, avoid power struggles and help the client begin to understand his or her own behavior and its impact on other people. You will learn to change lifelong emotional and behavioral patterns through cognitive restructuring, attachment and re-parenting work, behavioral-skills training, and experiential techniques. Learn to assess your client’s hot buttons and managed triggered reactions like aggression and attachment.

Expert clinician and best selling author Wendy Behary, will help you understand the narcissist’s view of world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, underneath their seemingly tough bravado, narcissist’s have issues of inadequacy, intolerable shame, sadness and loneliness. This understanding will allow you to set limits with your narcissistic client, and recognize, relevant to the treatment goals, when it’s time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

Demonstrate specific clinical strategies to apply with narcissistic clients
Integrate concepts from interpersonal neurobiology as powerful tools for accelerating treatment effectiveness
Identify personal schemas and modes – a major obstacle to treatment
Utilize self-work: to bypass intense personal triggers, activated by the narcissist
Create and adapt custom-fitting scripts to fortify leverage, to utilize “empathic confrontation” and to set limits…under a variety of conditions relevant to narcissism
Utilize the “Therapy Relationship” as an effective strategy for changing maladaptive reactions; and as powerful agent for change – generalizing newly adapted behaviors from the treatment room to the narcissist’s world


Origins of Narcissism and Treatment
Conceptualization of narcissism and early unmet needs
Assessment tools
Narcissism DSM® and Schema Theory

The Spectrum of Narcissism
Entitled types
Full-blown character pathology
Sociopathic profiles

The Narcissist in Treatment
Unmet needs
Coping styles
Imbedded states of mind
Using specific assessment tools to guide treatment
Modes and schema of the narcissistic client

Overcoming the Challenges in Treating the Narcissism
Traits, states, and coping styles
How the narcissist provokes the therapist
How the therapist’s schemas and modes can sabotages treatment
Gaining leverage
Meaningful consequences
Keeping the narcissist motivated
Working with the narcissist’s spouse or significant other

Interventions and Strategies for Change
Establishing agreements regarding mutual respect
Imagery, for linking new thinking and behavior with early maladaptive experiences
Confronting the detached modes in order to access the lonely child
The power of candid “realness” to build trust
Break through intellectual and approval seeking barriers
Confront overcompensating grandiosity
Effectively tackle aggressiveness
How to remain the credible, compassionate expert that you are

How to Implement Interventions: Demonstrations and Role Plays
Video presentation / case discussion
Transformational chair work
Mode work
Empathic confrontation
Therapy relationship
Limit setting


Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW: With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the president of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of (New Harbinger Publications – 1st edition): Disarming the Narcissist...Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism (Wiley Publications and APA Press, 2011/12). She lectures both nationally and internationally to professionals on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships and dealing with difficult people.

Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems.


NOTE: CE Certificates are available for $9.99. Please contact PESI Inc Customer Service at 1-800-844-8260 for more details.

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