Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and ability to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships. Good parenting begins in the heart, and then continues on a moment-to-moment basis by engaging children when feelings run high, when they are sad, angry, or scared. The heart of parenting or working with children in a clinical setting is being there in a particular way when it really counts. This talk explains how to teach children to understand and regulate their emotional world. Throughout this talk, the Gottmans explain to listeners the five-steps of the “emotion coaching” process. This talk is based upon Dr. Gottman’s globally influential book, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting.
Discuss the five-steps of the “emotion coaching” process.
Explain how to predict how a child will do in the long run, how emotion coaching impacts physical health, helps kids self soothe and affects their ability to interact with their peers
Become aware of a child’s smaller emotions so they don’t have to escalate
Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching
Listen empathetically and validate a child’s feelings
Label emotions in words a child can understand
Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation
About the Speaker:
John Gottman, Ph.D., is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington, where he established what the media called, "The Love Lab," and conducted much of his award-winning research on couple interaction and treatment. Dr. Gottman has studied marriage, couples and parent relationships for nearly four decades. He has authored or co-authored 119 published articles as well as 44 books, including: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The Relationship Cure, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, and How You Can Make Yours Last, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting, And Baby Makes Three and The Marriage Clinic.
World renown for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. Gottman's research has earned him numerous national awards, including: Four five-year-long National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards; The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Distinguished Research Scientist Award; The American Psychological Association Division of Family Psychology Presidential Citation for Outstanding Lifetime Research Contribution; The National Council of Family Relations 1994 Burgess Award for Outstanding Career in Theory and Research.
Dr. Gottman, together with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute, which provides clinical training, workshops, services, and educational materials for mental health professionals, couples, and families. He is also the co-founder and Executive Director of the Relationship Research Institute which has created treatments for couples transitioning to parenthood and couples suffering from minor domestic violence.
Dr. Gottman has presented hundreds of invited keynote addresses, workshops, and scientific presentations, to avid audiences around the world including Switzerland, Italy, France, England, Israel, Turkey, South Korea, Australia, Canada, Sweden and Norway. A wonderful story-teller and expert, Dr. Gottman has also appeared on many TV shows, including Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, and he has been written up in numerous print articles, including Newsweek, The New York Times, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Glamour, Woman's Day, Men's Health, People, Self, Reader's Digest, and Psychology Today.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman currently live on Orcas Island, near Seattle, Washington. They conduct weekly and intensive couples therapy sessions, provide small group retreats, teach workshops and clinical trainings and give presentations and training workshops around the world.
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., is the co-founder and Clinical Director of The Gottman Relationship Institute, and Clinical Supervisor for the Couples Together Against Violence study. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, sexual harassment and rape, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. Creator of the immensely popular Art and Science of Love weekend workshops for couples, she also designed and leads the national certification program in Gottman Method Relationship Therapy for clinicians. Her other achievements include: Washington State Psychologist of the Year; Author/co-author of three books: Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, And Baby Makes Three, and The Marriage Clinical Casebook; Wide recognition for her clinical psychotherapy treatment, with specialization in distressed couples, abuse and trauma survivors, substance abusers and their partners, and cancer patients and their families.
Inspiring, empowering, respectful, and kind, Julie's leadership of The Gottman Relationship Institute has made it possible to identify and integrate the expertise of her staff, therapists, and the wider research and therapeutic community. Her commitment to excellence and integrity assures that as The Gottman Relationship Institute grows, it continues to maintain the highest ethical and scientific standards.
She is in private practice in the Seattle area, providing intensive marathon therapy sessions for couples. She specializes in working with distressed couples, abuse and trauma survivors, those with substance abuse problems and their partners, as well as cancer patients and their families.
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