Esther Perel and Terry Real, two of the world’s most forward thinkers on sexuality and relationships, join together to offer you an exciting workshop exploring clinical perspectives and interventions for the really tough situations of couples struggling with desire, affairs and even divorce. Narcissism, Cheating and Trauma: a complex triad. Using case examples and hands on intervention we will demonstrate how to integrate couple dynamics with “deep work” on the part of each individual. Objectives: Recognize couples’ vicious cycles and the underlying trauma that fuels them. Utilize new tools to help couples in their seemingly hopeless crises and make-or-break stalemates. Design creative interventions to unlock erotic blocks stemming from shame, fear, guilt and trauma. Discuss with couples how to take emotional risks to open up sexual communication. Examine strategies to rebalance power differentials in the couple. Discover the motivations behind affairs and their possible meanings in different relationships, both heterosexual and gay. Create a safe and non-judgmental therapeutic environment to work with secrets, confidentiality, transparency and truth telling. Outline: NARCISSISM: Conventional therapeutic practice focuses on helping people come up from the one down of shame. But many clients need help coming down from the one up of narcissism. INFIDELITY: Affairs have been primarily framed in terms of trauma and betrayal. This workshop presents a dual perspective that embraces both growth and expansion for one with loss and betrayal for the other. TRAUMA: To be more effective in the treatment of affairs and narcissism we need to expand our understanding of Trauma. This workshop presents six different kinds of trauma and their specific emotional and sexual consequences. NARCISSIM, CHEATING AND TRAUMA-A COMPLEX TRIAD: Using case examples and hands on intervention we will demonstrate how to integrate couple dynamics with "deep work" on the part of each individual. About the Speaker: Terry Real, is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. He is particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men and male psychology as well as his work on gender and couples; he has been in private practice for over twenty-five years. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others. In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don’t Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by How Can I Get Through To You? an exploration of the role of patriarchy in relationships and most recently, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, a practical guide for couples and couples therapists. Terry founded The Relational Life Institute, in Arlington, Massachusetts, dedicated to working with the general population to help women reclaim their voices and men open their hearts. The Institute offers a training program which begins with an introductory level practicum as well as workshops and trainings throughout the U.S. and Canada. Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, is recognized as one of the most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships and the complex science behind human interaction. She is the best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, translated into 25 languages. Fluent in nine of them, the Belgian native is a practicing psychotherapist, celebrated speaker and organizational consultant to Fortune 500 companies. The New York Times, in a cover story, named her the most important game changer on sexuality and relationships since Dr. Ruth. Her critically acclaimed viral TED talk reached nearly 5 million viewers in the first year. Known for her keen cross-cultural pulse, Esther shifts the paradigm of our approach to modern relationships. She is regularly sought around the world for her expertise in relational health and communication, team building, erotic intelligence, couples and family identity, work-life balance, and corporate relationships. Her clients and platforms include companies such as Nike, Johnson & Johnson, the Open Society Institute, Tony Robbins Productions, Brighthouse Consulting, Summit Series, Founder’s Forum, PopTech, Young Presidents Organization, Entrepreneur Organization, and the Bronfman Foundation. Esther’s innovative models for building strong and lasting relationships have been widely featured in the media across 5 continents spanning The New York Times, the Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Le Monde, Ha’Aretz and The Guardian, The New Yorker, Fast Company, and Vogue. She is a frequent guest on radio and television shows including NPR’s “Brian Lehrer Show,” “Oprah,” “The Today Show”, “Dr. Oz” and “The Colbert Report.” She is also a consultant on the new Showtime television show, The Affair. In addition to a 30-year therapy practice in New York City, Esther serves on the faculty of The Family Studies Unit, Department of Psychiatry, New York University Medical Center and The International Trauma Studies Program at Columbia University. *Continuing Education Information: For U.S. and Canadian customers, CE is available for $9.99 USD per participant. International CE rates may vary; please contact PESI Customer Service at 1-800-844-8260 for more details.
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